F*ck Logic—Feel It to Heal It

They love to tell us, “Don’t be so emotional.” But here’s the thing, sis—my emotions have never lied to me. That little tug in my chest? That tension in my stomach? That gut feeling whispering, “This ain’t it”? That wasn’t just a random reaction. That was divine guidance. That was God. That was me, fully connected to my own inner knowing. Somewhere along the way, we were conditioned to worship logic. We were told to trust the facts, the stats, the data. But those same systems that pushed that logic narrative conveniently erased us from the equation. So why would I silence the one thing that’s always kept me safe?

My emotions are not liabilities—they’re sacred signals. They’re love notes from my intuition. God’s push notifications. That deep-down knowing that tells me when to pause, when to pivot, and when to protect my peace. So no, I don’t want to “calm down” or “be rational.” I want to feel. I want to trust myself. I want to give other Browngirls permission to do the same. Because when we start trusting our emotions again, we start trusting ourselves—and that’s the beginning of radical freedom.

But let’s be real—getting back in touch with your feelings after years of being told you’re too much or too sensitive? That’s no small thing. We’ve all learned how to perform strength. We keep moving, keep showing up, keep grinding, all while silently disconnecting from the one voice that’s been here since day one—our own. And I’m not talking about the version of you that shows up polished and unbothered. I’m talking about the you that feels everything deeply, even when you try not to. The you that swallows pain to keep the peace. The you that calls it growth when really it’s just survival.

That version of you deserves to be heard. We gaslight ourselves into silence, thinking being emotional is weakness and vulnerability makes us unstable. But the truth is, ignoring your emotions doesn’t make them go away—it just disconnects you from your intuition. And when you’re disconnected from how you really feel, it’s hard to trust yourself, hard to hear your spirit, and damn near impossible to move in alignment. That’s when you start shrinking your voice, second-guessing your gut, and wondering why peace feels like a stranger.

Not in this season. Nah, sis. Not when you’re finally learning yourself on a whole new level. You’ve carried enough. Masked enough. Performed enough. Now it’s time to get honest with your heart. And because I know nobody handed us a blueprint for how to check in with our feelings—how to pause and really listen—I put something together to help you start. No fluff. No fixing. Just a sacred moment for you to tell yourself the truth.

Feel It to Heal It – A Guided Self-Check-In for Browngirls

This is your invitation to feel without fear. To name what’s present. To stop shrinking around your truth. Because you’re not too emotional—you’re in tune. And that’s a gift.

Objective: To help you reconnect with and name your emotions in real time, so you can begin to trust your intuition again—and stop gaslighting yourself out of your own truth.

What You’ll Need:

• A journal

• A pen

• The Feelings Wheel

• 15–30 minutes of uninterrupted quiet

• A candle, playlist, or soft vibe that makes you feel safe

Instructions:

1. Set the Vibe. Light a candle. Press play on something soulful—Solange, Ari Lennox, Erykah Badu. Wrap yourself in softness. This is your sacred space.

2. Breathe + Drop In. Take three deep breaths. Ask yourself: How am I feeling right now—emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually? Let the answers come without judgment.

3. Explore the Feelings Wheel. Start at the center. Let your eyes scan slowly until something clicks. Work outward to get more specific.

4. Journal It Out. Respond to these prompts:

• The emotion I’m feeling right now is: _________

• What triggered this feeling?

• What is this feeling trying to tell me?

• When have I felt this before?

• What do I need right now to honor this emotion?

5. Affirm It. Say this out loud or write it where you can see it:
   “My emotions are not liabilities. They are divine signals. I trust them because I trust myself.”

Put it in action: Share one emotion you uncovered today with a trusted friend or inside our private Browngirl Experience community. Let yourself be seen. Let yourself be held.

A Gem for You:
Your emotions are not the problem. They’re not extra. They’re not a flaw. They are your compass. They are how your soul speaks. Reclaiming them is how you reclaim you. So breathe. Name it. Feel it. And let your emotions lead you back home.